I’ve never really understood the concept of boundaries until I started my profession. I was so unaware of all the people who were using me or abusing me in same way or form. I would allow others to fully take advantage of me because I had no sense of self; like a chameleon I would change myself. I would get so lost in other people’s crap and I would take it upon myself to make their problems mine.
It wasn’t until recently about three weeks ago where I was in a meditation checking in with my feelings that I realized I still was allowing others to invade my personal space and manipulate me into thinking I should be doing more for them!
Now could they be doing it on purpose, potentially, but mostly they were doing it because my energy feels good to be around.
I had to get real with myself, seriously sit down and write out what I feel is good for me what I like and what I don’t like. Once I created my list I realized how much I was abandoning myself to please others! I had to make this right for myself.
The hardest step is always the first step. When I realized I was allowing others to invade my space I had to start figuring out how to speak up. For those who really know me they will think this is funny because I come off as super blunt but I freaking hate confrontation and have a big fear of being rejected, so actually speaking up about what I like and don’t like is super scary!!
I asked my Guides and Angels to help me out, they always do! I stumbled across a YouTube channel- Psychic channel and she was showing some silly visualization of how to get clear on your boundaries. So I did it and it worked, but I thought how the heck is this creating a boundary between me and those who just walk all over me. So I sat in a meditation and my Guides explained it to me. Any visualization is training your energy field to manifest what your intention is .
I wanted healthy boundaries, this tool is showing me how it feels to have a healthy boundary and what the energy of having a healthy boundary represents. It’s like hitting the gym daily and getting the results! (I posted a video on the tool)
That’s why it’s super important for intuitive, stressed out people, healers, hey anyone who is suffering to get into some practice!
So here I am three weeks later, and the difference is crazy! I literally feel better. I don’t feel drained and I’m speaking up about what I want and need. No fear about being rejected and I realized in my profession I have a choice! I don’t have to save everyone and boundaries means a healthy exchange. The only thing that should be in your space is love, love going in and love going out. It has given me a sense of self!
The tool to help with boundaries :
Sit in a quite space visualize a symbol in your auric field that represents you. Then visualize a person and create a symbol for them. Allow your symbol to return their energy and from their symbol take back what is yours.
Pay attention to the sensations your body feels.
Make this a daily practice , it strengthens your energy field and creates memory so that person can no longer invade in your auric field.
Allow only love in and only love out. This will help you understand and create a better sense of self.
May Love and Light Guide you home…